It's My Pleasure

Subconscious fears about not wanting to disappoint your partner, give the wrong idea or lock yourself into something you aren’t so sure about are keeping you from feeling more desire. And the solution is simply. Listen in to find out what it is.

This episode originally showed up on The Black Sheep Playground podcast with Meg Kierstead and I loved the interview so much I wanted to share it here as well. Because to be honest it isn’t talked about a lot. How to regulate more - yes, how to get organized and stay on task - yes but sex and pleasure? Not so much.

Have you ever asked yourself the question what the difference between caring or caretaking is? And why am I even asking this question? Because if you are anything like me, or my clients, playing mother to your lover is for sure NOT a turn on. So when does genuine caring and doing something from love for another cross into the realm of being their caretaker? That is exactly what we will be discussing on this episode

There is a lot of talk about the mental load and physical load of running a house that a woman in a heterosexual relationship typically experiences. And thank goodness - we NEED to be talking about this.

Understanding sexual pleasure and desire can feel complex - there can be so many factors that impact your mood, your openness to receive and your experience of pleasure. That being said, in order to increase your sexual satisfaction it really comes down to three essential things. You can keep your mind focus on these THREE things over and over again because you’ll always find little nuances to work with that will help you elevate your sensual experience...

“Babe. Listening to this woman was like I was listening to myself. I want to sign up for this program. I want what she has!” That’s the exact thing one of my clients said to her husband after listening to an interview about a year ago on “It’s My Pleasure”. Now she is coming on to share with all of you how this work, in her words, “has completely changed my LIFE.”

In this episode we dive into the world of people pleasing, but in a way that will allow for more compassion AND motivate change. I want all women to feel incredible in their bodies and sex lives and having acute awareness around our socialization to please is the key to that.

For high achieving women, especially leaders, pleasure and rest tends to be seen as irrelevant to the important work and impact they are creating in the world. On this week’s episode, former client and leadership coach, Emily Feairs shares why we’ve got it all backwards.

Mismatched desire is one of the main sources of frustrations and tension in sexual relationships. However most of us might label the different levels of desire as ‘mismatched’ when in fact that isn’t what is going on - which is exactly what we talked about in last week’s episode 152.

This week I want you to understand what mismatched desire is and isn’t, because how we handle this and move forward looks very different in either case. Learning more about yourself and about your partner will help both of you have much more satisfying sexual experiences - which is of course my aim! Listen on and find out if you truly are experiencing mismatched desire or perhaps the way desire is presenting itself is outside what media depicts.