The Bubbly Bibi

Without a shadow of a doubt, the world has a way of keeping us busy and rushing us through moments of accomplishment and good news. But with so much inevitable sadness and anguish that we are all bound to experience in our lives, it’s high time we take the time to appreciate and focus on those happiness-inducing magical moments. Even I tended to let the little moments of joy slip by too quickly…But I have slowly learned to stick with my feelings in the good times to make sure they really matter...

Feeling like you’re missing something essential? ???? Are you always left feeling not good enough, accomplished enough, attractive enough, smart enough or whatever you think the lack is related to? ???? Does the search for positive feedback and affirmation in your life feel like a unicorn hunt? ???? You may think you’ll never be good enough for anything or anyone, but the truth is that you are good enough, even if you don’t see it...

For many of us, standing up for ourselves doesn’t come naturally ???? – in fact,  it can even seem like a no-go. Maybe you’re someone who doesn’t like to “rock the boat” and swallow any opposing feelings or thoughts to avoid confrontation - you find that doing what others want seems the best or easiest thing to do. But when we let people walk all over us, it leaves a bad taste in our mouths.???? We’ll end up with anger and resentment...

We often try to mould ourselves into the image of what others think, and in this vicious process, we forget how to stay true to ourselves. From a young age, we learn to be someone our parents want us to be, and it is perfectly normal to get lost in this process.... ???? We are constantly told how to sit... how to talk... how to act... and even how to breathe in front of others...

The truth is, many of us experience a lack of self-confidence from time to time, and that's perfectly normal. But when it comes to jealousy, personal insecurity and comparison in a relationship, it can drive a wedge between you and your partner. Insecurity can be somewhat positive and cute, as it can inspire you to work harder in the relationship and value your partner more...

The relationship is on the rocks and about to end, but you can’t accept that your partner, that person whom you loved so much, is about to become your ex. It hurts too much. Even worse, you find yourself begging for them not to leave you. And when they break things off, you can’t stop wishing for them to take you back, hoping that they’ll want to start over with you ... and you hate yourself for it because you know it’s too late. ????   Honey, you’re not alone...

We all are selfish to an extent, but some people are just too much into themselves and tend to disregard others. They can even make you feel worthless! Some use you when they have issues, but they are never around when you need them. Sometimes they make you feel inadequate and invisible. But, no matter how the selfish person treats you, it doesn’t mean that you should behave like them and adopt a selfish lifestyle. Instead, stay true to yourself...

While relationships can be beautiful, they can also be complicated and messy. ???? And the root cause of a messy relationship is none other than insecurity. There comes the point in every relationship where one or both partners feel insecure. Insecurity arises from self-doubt, low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and self-love and the fear of losing one’s partner. We often believe that we cannot make our partner happy because we’re unsure of ourselves...

You may miss someone; you may miss everything you’ve experienced with the person you’ve loved so much and wish you could relive these moments. And you wonder why it all ended... you fill your mind and thoughts with tons of unnecessary ifs and buts, trying hopelessly to figure out why things had to end this way. Could it have been something to do with you, with them, with the universe, with their dog, with...? What would have happened if.....

"Boundaries" seems to be a buzzword in mental health circles right now –—and there is a good reason for that. They say good boundaries make good neighbors. I say good personal boundaries build great interpersonal and professional relationships. Some people feel the need to please others, often without realizing that by saying “yes” to everything, they are also saying “no” to something else that might be equally important to them...