Welcome to Beyond the Self, an unfiltered podcast dedicated to shining a spotlight on what truly lies within your control.Hosted by globally acclaimed consultant, mentor, and writer Africa Brooke, this podcast aims to remind us of the power inherent in taking simple, consistent steps towards personal integrity.In an era of information overwhelm and societal pressures, it's easy to become fixated on external influences, tiptoeing around potentially sensitive issues and crossing our own boundaries in the process.Such an environment often leads to self-sabotage. That's where Beyond the Self steps in.Africa aims to assist you in uncovering your own blind spots, promoting healthy detachment from the ego, honouring discomfort, and rekindling curiosity. The goal is to equip you with the tools needed to reclaim control of your life's journey.Every episode features Africa's encouraging insights about our shared human complexities, both messy and beautiful. She values nuanced understanding, and more importantly, provides practical, evidence-based tools and resources to help you integrate these learnings into your life...
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Gesamtlänge aller Episoden: 2 days 12 hours 28 minutes
episode 79: #079 - Releasing cult-like thinking & rigid identities - w/ Mark Vicente
Get ready for an engaging conversation as I sit down with my dear friend, Mark Vicente. Many of you might recognise him as the whistle-blower for the cult NXIVM, but there's so much more to him than that. Mark is not just a public figure; he's an author, a speaker, and the cinematographer behind the iconic film Sarafina!
Together, we explore the intense demands placed upon us by social media, our battles with how the public sees us, and being honest in our self-expression...
episode 78: #078 - How to deal with rejection (I'm facing it in real time!)
This is something I'm experiencing firsthand. It's tender, and while some of me still feels low, I'm driven to share my insights with you from my recent experience of rejection. From viewing rejection as feedback to cultivating resilience and prompting deep self-reflection, in this episode I share 5 learnings that have reshaped my perspective.
So, if you're facing rejection, remember—it's not defeat but a chance for growth and transformation...
episode 77: #077 - Rejecting urgency culture
Today I want to revisit an episode I did that focused on the importance of rejecting urgency culture. I share some things I'm doing personally and riff out loud with you as well.
From honouring my own timeline and why it seems like we are all in such a rush, why I'm dedicated to simplifying and going deeper, to how I'm learning to set realistic expectations without compromising my standards...
episode 76: #076 - Dark side of dating apps, heartbreak, raw attachment style truths - w/ Rebecca Archer
I have my thoughts about what it means to love and be loved in the modern world. What's the real cost of swiping right? Is there truth to attachment styles or has it become a (Western) collective obsession? Is the dating scene really as demotivating and disturbing as people say?
In this special episode, I'm joined by someone I've wanted to speak to for a while; the ever-insightful Rebecca Archer...
episode 75: #075 - Let people f*cking help you!
Do you keep avoiding help from others? I'm guilty as charged. In this episode, I'm exploring the obstacles of seeking help and the profound challenge of accepting it. I've battled with this myself, particularly when I was neck-deep in writing my book.
I had this mind-blowing psychedelic trip, coupled with deep meditation, and it hit me like a ton of bricks—the lesson of opening up, of not letting this hyper-independence trap me in a "golden cage...
episode 74: #074 - How to refuse living in shame
Have you ever wondered what it's like to confront your deepest struggles head-on? Today, I'm revisiting a past episode where I talk about my letter addressing my battle with alcoholism, a letter I wrote in 2017. This letter is a testament to my growth and the crucial role of self-acceptance in my life.
I've learned that honesty isn't just a policy; it's the foundation of who I am and who I've become...
episode 73: #073 - Be okay with disappointing people
As we journey through life, clashes in values and beliefs are inevitable, often leading to the discomfort of disappointing others. Especially in the realm of online interactions, where diverse perspectives collide, staying true to our integrity can sometimes mean disappointing those around us.
In this episode I explore how the pervasive influence of cancel culture amplifies the fear of disappointing others, stifling our authenticity and forcing conformity...
episode 72: #072 - It’s time to manage who has access to you
I am so, so deeply grateful for everybody who has pre-ordered my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance. Your support means so much to me!
In this episode, I'm discussing something that over the past 8 years, I've grappled with and have refined as time has gone by - this notion of managing who has access to you...
episode 71: #071 - How to seduce people socially
Ever walked into a room and felt an INSTANT connection with someone without a single word exchanged? That magnetic energy, that unspoken charisma – that's the power of seduction beyond the obvious.
In this episode, I'm stripping away the sexual connotations of the term 'seduction' to explore how it applies to our everyday lives. It's not about manipulation - it's about authentically refining who you are...
episode 70: #070 - Don't be afraid to be seen trying
In this mini-sode I give you an update on all things book, love, life, and VOICE. Although you might not think it, there’s an area where I still experience STRONG RESISTANCE when it comes to activating my voice. Singing. Yes, SINGING. I didn’t expect I would be sharing this in today’s episode but here we are. If you sometimes find it difficult to put effort into things you're passionate about too, and fear is holding you back, this episode is also for you...